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smacking? anyone with kids?
 

mini almost 3 has bitten another child, I told them it was first time, but she has bitten me a few times at home, she got a smack for it, cos it bloody hurt, she likes getting smacked and laughs....do I have sociopath on my hands, any experience on how to discipline...

we have rug called 'naughty circle', but runs away, takes all day keep putting her back, need something quicker. Does not care if I take toys away....says 'don't care'

She LIKES geting smacked? Wow. I never heard that one before.

I never got hit by my parents luckily... my father let me get away with murder but my mother would just give me a look with her eyes that would just scare the crap out of me, and I could tell that she would have beaten me to within an inch of my life had I continued doing whatever it was. That in itself was enough. She would do it even if I tried to take a sweet from somebod for example (even shopkeepers and friends of hers) if they offered me one... and I would stop right in my tracks, in my attempt to take it and eat it.

She is probably biting out of frustration.
Do you let her know that it hurts when she bites you?
Perhaps start crying, or make it known and say ' NO BITING'
I have heard this works for a few people.

pretending to cry, ok I will try that one.

yeah, I smacked her and she laughed and said 'again', maybe i did it too soft, anyway I do not like the idea of hurting her deliberately, seems a bad way of telling someone not to hurt others...

I locked her in her room, last week, because she flung a plate of food across the room, but she kicked and pulled the door so much I let her out..

she is very sweet most of the time but when she is bad, she is hard to control

smacking is pointless man

u have to show authority...smacking does not do that

evil stares....raised voices....toys taken away :noidea:

there has to be a line....not easy i know oomps

@Elijah same here..my muma black woman not to mess with :doh:

Lol why dont you watch some supernanny lol or something could perhaps help..or a google search may help you

Bite her back when she does it, maybe then she'll stop.

yes, my little baby is 2&half yeasl old. SHE is naughty and im telling you she is, her mother doesn't like it, but me as a man i LLLOOOVVVEEE IT.

KISS HER ,CUDDLE HER ,ENJOY WHAT SHE'S GIVING YOU .

Bit the wee one back.

And laugh at her shock.

I do that with the puppies.

Soon stops the biting.

Has to work for rug rats.

:pop2:

Let her keep biting! Maybe she can be famous for it one day.

My daughter knows that she really needs to push my buttons to get "spanked" on the booty. I have a similar type of thing as you oompa, only I make my daughter sit at the stairs that lead to our den and I have her sit there till she gets her act together.

As a young lad my momma would really give me a major spanking....but the biggest fear was getting spanked by dad which had the power of a train!

^^ ah yes, the dad pain train..... the sound of him getting the leather belt out, RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN :shocked: :surrender:

also why did you say "lad" you are in the US right? hahaha

Bite her back let it hurt (to a degree) and let her cry.

My son tried that, Bit him back on the arm. He looked at me like I sprouted an extra head that looked like the green goblin, didnt cry though, as I didnt do it hard. Needless to say, he stopped and if he gets out of line, I just give him the glare of doom. End of whatever he was doing.

Be sure to address it though.
You cannot be your childs friend....

I still remember when I was 7 or 8 yrs old, I stuck my tongue out at my Mom while her back to me...2 seconds later she said "I SAW THAT". I ran for my room and hid in the closet and had the following look: :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:. For weeks I was convinced that she had eye(s) in the back of her head.

@golden_monkey, what I can't use the word lad? :suspicious: :pop2: :bored:

With my parents, our Da was away on active duty all the time.

My Ma was THE boss.

She had a table tennis bat AND an ironing cord for obedience.

Brothers hated the sight of them.

First time Ma gave me the bat I told her I would lay her out if she ever touched me again.
Too cute coming from a 5 year old :laugh:
She never did.
To this day we call her Bat Ma
:pound:

You need to reinforce good behavior, and with bad behavior a consequence like time out by herself in a room with nothing to play with, or like as GTB said a toy taken away. It is never too late to start behavior modification but it is very important to stick with the plan.

Restraint, Plain and simple,,You have the Right idea, with your "'naughty circle" or Room Locking,,,but Real Naughty children sometimes need to 'Feel" Restrained, Try Tying her in the room with the door wide open,,,if that does not get the desired response, make the surroundings and/or time restrained progressively worse, another room, the basement, Outside, 10 min, 20, 1 hour,,a Little Hard to Ignore the Screams,,Pleas,,Crying,,ect, ect,,but they DO Learn,,

You can get some "Padded" Handcuffs that will not hurt the child no matter how hard she tugs on them,, and as a Fringe Benifit when you are not adjusting the Childs attitude, you can "Adjust" someone else's

My father gave my brother MANY "attitude adjustment lessons, once he Handcuffed him to the Porch in his undies and Bare Feet for 2 Min In a BLIZZARD,,He Learned MORE about behavior in those 2 Min than in his entire Life (8 Years old at the time)

PTL your Dad ever married my Ma.

Terrible combo of Tough Love

:pound:

if my 3 yr old senses for 1 second i am lightly telling him off he will just pull faces to try make me laugh

9 times out of 10 he gets me....i am a sucka for it

clever little lad :doh:

aint they just ralph ? my little man was 3 on sunday

smart as hell

:pop2: watches lol

Perfectly normal at her age and RARELY indicative of future behaviour. If she/he starts setting fires or biting kids at SCHOOL, then prob best to intervene.

She only bites YOU right?

Pattern of misbehaviour could develop.

Mother being bitten is not correct but biting another child has potential for grief.

update, I bit back, and it earned me a slap in the face....but will persevere with discipline. She promised not to bite again, and particularly another child, not sure if it will last, hoping it is a phase. I have taken some jewellery and prized stuff as collateral....

outdoor cat runs away as soon as she approaches it, due to rough treatment and a child at nursery has reportedly been manhandled in the pretend hair salon, curlers alledgedly were applied and removed with half of scalp attached....

Wow oompa, you seem to have your hands full.

I want to adopt this child.

I see great potential.

:cheer:

am preparing package for shipment to Oz, few things you must know first;

can sing, whilst doing hand-stand

will force feed any pet with lolly-pops

brushes teeth by moving head and not the brush

and can already write name (but only in saliva on windows)

I shall pay the freight!!!!

Come to Auntie :cheer:

I agree with GB- something about this struck me as particularly brilliant- really gave me a smile! :)

WoW, Can she turn her head 360 Degrees while throwing up Pea Soup?

Because If she can, she could have a BIG Future in Hollywood

....her nursery teacher thinks it is due to high intelligence, as she has tested off the scale, a psychologist is dropping by to see her, and to advise the nursery how to handle her, due to the incidents regarding other kids, apparently it is their procedure? I maybe should not have mentioned that animals are scared of her, as I think they interpreted that as a warning sign like you see for psychos that start with animals, she is more in the catagory of over-enthusiastic care of them, but animals do not much care for being dressed up, hair braided etc....

the other thing that apparently worried them is they observed that she put a spider and a fly in a jar 'to see what happens' and then decided to save the fly, but both critters ended up dead in the confusion.

I think they are reading too much in to this behaviour, I personally think the biting is they only issue here.

Oompa, your daughter hasn't (as far as you know) killed any animals has she?

no, never, but they have to be watched with them, as they can accidentally hurt them, plus the animal can retaliate too.

we had a fish burial and at the funeral there was wailing, hymns and she has decorated the grave with flowers, however she dug it up a few days later, to see if it 'got better', so like your video, I can see how that age group does not fully understand death .....

If this is how kids with high intelligence acts then I hope I have a dumb child.

My (step..thank god) niece who is four is the same way, she bites and hits my four year old daughter and her mom does nothing. she never disciplines her and it gets worse. At least you sound like you are on top of the situation, just keep correcting it , it will get better eventually. Three is a rough age, my oldest is a teen now and is awesome but god when he was three he was a holy terror.

I SO want this sweet cupcake.

She can be taught to rule the world later :cheer:

Poot taste jokes aside.

No, it's not 'just' the biting.

Mini-me is luckily one of those kids who is likely older than her years.

She's frustrated with idiocy. Her energies need to be channelled.

Her IQ will be much higher than those she is forced to mingle with.

Check having a different nursery school. Look at Montessori education. This is not a main stream kid. There's a mind that can be developed & once that starts this behaviour will lessen.
:peace:

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Her room is already waiting

AND

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BRAND name kit to wear

:cheer:

thanks for all the advice, I needed the Summer break to recover from some of the embarassment at nursery. There now 3 mornings a week, and no more biting...yippee.

She is still under 'observation' though, their worries are 'lack of morality', no fear of consequences and some rudeness to teachers. Just been told since new term started, she was been running a fairly complex 'pyramid scheme' that involved the procurement of other childrens snack biscuit, they were hidden in her socks and eaten later whilst hiding. When teacher asked why she did it replied 'because I wanted to eat the biscuits' and when told the teacher did not like that sort of behaviour she replied 'you should go home then'.

GB, a non main-stream school had been sorted for age 5, but right now leaving her where she is, as it is best option at the moment.

Fortunately the headteacher sees the funny side, and says she will go far, but the manipulation of others and rudeness needs channelling....further tests showed her in 99.9 percentile range of IQ test for reading and math and off the scale/not classifiable for verbal comprehension and processing speed.

I opened this thread - saw your avatar - then accidentally read the first couple of words as "mini me almost 3 has bitten another child".

:lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:

Sorry that's not really advice, but I thought that was funny